Sunday, January 30, 2011

I don't have enough!

Dear Complaint Department,

I bring to you today my greatest pet peeve. It haunts me at night. It stalks me every single day. It waves at me, sickeningly, every time I realise I have something I need to do - now - before something else comes along and becomes top priority.

Complaint Department: I bring to you "Not Enough Hours In The Day".

Time = Hours in the Day / Hours I'm awake * Number of Roles - it does not compute!

You see, I have several roles to fulfil, some of which are mutually exclusive. And, well, that generally means that something, somewhere along the line, has to give. Whether I like it or not. Let me give you an example of how I have to distribute myself:

I am
A wife, a Mother, an Employee,
A Daughter, a Sibling, a Confidante, a Lover,
A Friend, an Owner, a Manager,
A Tutor, a Blogger, a Specialist in my Field of Work,
A Neighbour, a Writer,
A Fanatic, a Counsellor, a Homemaker,
A Nurse, a Cook, a Dog-Walker, a Pillow.

This list is not exhaustive. But I think it gives you an idea of where I'm coming from...

So my whine is this: where, in that severely cut-down list, is there time for ME? You know, time that can be spent tending to my own personal, professional, emotional and spiritual needs?

You know what, Complaint Department, it's just not good enough. I'm gonna take a stand. I demand time for me. Even if it means that I have to stay up until late into the night /early hours of the morning and end up looking like a walking zombie. At least I'll know: I found time for me. And that is what matters.

Who's with me??

This post was brought to you from the UK by CC x


  1. Well I for one am glad you find time for twitter and blogging!

    (short and sweet coments thanks to my awesome one-handed typing...)

  2. I agree. Not enough hours in the day. But maybe I need to just get my ass off my computer for an hour and do things I need/want to do. Like work out! I'm always like "boooo i dont have time for it" but yesterday I sat my ass in front of my tv on my comp and watched dvds ALL day. SO its my own damn fault.

    You on the other hand seem like a busy bee and NEED time for yourself. If I was a time wizard, I'd throw some your way because after reading all that, you very much deserve some time for your personal needs.

  3. I'm with you CC!! In fact, I was just thinking the exact same thing not half an hour ago. I'm not sure how some people do it all, I am not superwoman.... though I am pretty great ;)

  4. LOL - unfortunately, as with most complaint departments, all we can offer you at this time is a heartfelt apology. ;)

    I'm sorry, babe. I know the feeling, and not even half the shit on your list applies to me (I don't have kids yet, for example). But I feel you, for sure!

    You know what I wish is that when you have downtime at work or something, you could apply it to another part of your life where you're constantly struggling to catch up - like fan fiction or housework (but probably fan fiction).

  5. I found myself in a similar situation a few months ago, and I don't even have kids. I realized then that I have to prioritize. Consequently, it's the blog world that suffered the most. I stopped updating as frequently, and I stopped reading every single blog on my roll as soon as it was updated.

    Now, I'd like to give you piece of advice: don't wear yourself out. Don't cut down your sleeping hours. You need to be rested.
    Just recently this very famous news presenter in Serbia fainted at work. She was very ill, was in the hospital for months, and barely pulled through. I read an interview with her recently. She lived her life exactly the way you just said you wanted to: she allocated the time when everyone else had gone to bed to herself, staying up until the wee hours of the night.
    Eventually, she wore her immunity down, and a rare bug she contracted almost killed her.

    Nothing is as important as your health. Don't sacrifice it. Prioritize! :D

    Hope this helps.

  6. Dear CC,

    How could you forget in-law/hostess? I believe that was your FAV role you were chatting about when I first visited your blog. he he

    Sleep is important! Agreed w/ @Jelena.

    My hubby does his own laundry-that frees up some of my time. If you haven't done so yet, I recommend teaching hubby and the Things how to do their own laundry. :)

  7. I know your pain. Sometimes I just want to scream "I AM ONLY ONE PERSON, DAMN IT!"

  8. CC- Take a bubble bath..make's the BEST ME TIME therapy.

    xo J

  9. Wow! I've been amazed by all the responses! This has been like my own personal therapy session :-)

    @TT - yes, indeed, in-law/hostess is my all time favourite role. Er, NOT! But hubs does do his own ironing, so I must be doing something right ;-)

    @Jelena - you're right. Lack of sleep does not a happy CC make. I'm actually typing from the comfort of my lounge today rather than work - looks ike I've succumbed to the evil cold :-(

    Thanks for listening and being supportive people :-)

    CC x

  10. I know, I know, I know! *waves hand in an attempt to get you to call on me* You can take a few days for yourself in late September / early October! That way, we can both look forward to the same thing! I am with you, honey!